slave as object?

slave as object

Slave Development VS. Slave as Object

Slave as object, a fantasy that has existed throughout time. I can clearly remember the good old days of yore like it was only yesterday. I think it was something like so………………

Slave, fetcheth me my ale for I am parched. Then sucketh my dicketh for I need to expelleth my demon upon thee. Then standeth naked and shackled in thy corner until summoned again for thy flogging and my nightly foot worship.

There's a point to the crudeness, the point being that slave as object can be demeaning and shallow. Though this behavior may have a small role in the overall development process, a true heart-felt cerebral M/s relationship can't flourish in such a one dimensional capsule.

Let's look further into the idea as slave as object. To me, slave as object brings to mind using a slave as a sexual toy, foot stool or trophy. In my opinion, using a slave strictly in this manner is more of an attempt to garner status in ones circle of friends. Most of this can be compared to adolescent fantasy or fiction. When I think of slave as object, Ann Rice's Sleeping Beauty books come to mind. Elaborate tales of slavery and fantasy, slaves painted gold and tied to pillars, looking beautiful all the time and waiting to serve.

Any fictional tales such as these can be wonderful reading, one could even say that `slave as object' fiction can be great one handed reading and that's a wonderful thing. However, fiction is generally not livable in a 24-7 lifestyle.

You may have a “sex slave” or “fuck buddy” and that's cool too but I would bet that style of slave as object relationship does not have waters that run deep. There's a big difference between a relationship that meets ones physical needs and a relationship that meets all your needs.

Let's take a look at slave development. Slave development is something completely different. Slave development is about training, nurturing and molding someone to your specifics. It's not about instant gratification, sexual satisfaction or showing off. Though there may be some instant gratification or opportunity to show off, that's not what heart-felt M/s development is derived from. Slave development gives both the dominant and the submissive a chance to grow. It opens the door to becoming a master; it opens the door to finding your “slave- heart”. Development is the opportunity for two (or more people) to grow in a very special way. To open the door for unconditional surrender and service is one of the strongest bonds human nature has to offer. M/s development is very cerebral. It goes far beyond sexual gratification. Development of an entire person digs deep into both the Master and slaves psyche.

It seems to be very fitting that slave development is closing out the topics for our MAsT year. In the past year we have spoken about the following topics:

Discipline

Protocols

S/M in M/s

Rewards in M/s

Punishment

Control

Difficulties in M/s

Finding ways to keep our lifestyle moving forward in a positive direction.

All of these topics point to development. All the topics listed above help develop an M/s life style. In my opinion that's what slave development really represents. It represents all aspects of our life. The chance to give all of your self to another being. Whether you are the Master or slave, through the best of times and the worst of times, you give all of your self.

Slave as object is more about dungeon play, sex and instant gratification. Let's face it, true M/s development is not instant gratification. It's art. It's a long work in progress that takes integrity, patience and commitment. Slave development is M/s and M/s is serious business.

All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. In other words all that serious development stuff to hopefully achieve an ideal M/s relationship can get boring and tedious. Boredom can be very detrimental to any relationship especially an M/S relationship. So here comes the combination package. It's probably a good idea to blend object and development. As I mentioned earlier slave as object is not a viable 24-7 lifestyle. But it sure as fuck can be fun on a Saturday night. Utilizing play, fun and development together, Whoo hoo! Whether it's S/m, radical sex or just overall raw behavior, it can be a blast. Allowing those fictional stories to come to life or live out that fantasy can be a lot of fun. Usually when we do that, the slave is getting the worst of it (though they may be having fun too) it's the slaves' endurance and thresholds that are tested. So let's have that fun, let's not allow Jack to become a dull boy. But soon after the play party/ fantasy is over, watch the development kick in. Development can grow with aftercare and being there for the slave. There are valuable lessons in trust and strength training after such play. A lot can be built on these playful activities. Once again we can bear witness to the evolution of development through play. Through play we can explore and test the boundaries of trust and service. The combination package can help develop a true M/s relationship. I don't think a sole slave as object relationship allows for that kind of cerebral intimacy and growth.

Once again it's time for you guys to spout out your thoughts and ideas.

I look forward to seeing everyone at our next meeting on Sunday November 7th.