Tips & Tricks for the lazy Master

Tips and Tricks For the Lazy or Busy Master.

Hello again everyone. Once again, our eyes greet an essay to prepare us for another thought provoking MAsT meeting.

I would like to start off by saying that as much as I'm looking forward to this topic I really don't like the title the topic has taken. The title of "Tips and Tricks for the Lazy or Busy Master" sounds more like a how to book that would quietly sit on the shelf with "How to Get Your Fat Lazy Unmotivated Husband To Contribute To Your Household." That book is (of course) co-written by Ophra Winfrey and Jerry Springer.

When I start to think of the idea of tips and tricks for the lazy or busy Master I start to think more on the lines of helpful hints to guide your household when you become consumed by life. I'll go out on a limb here, since both Masters and slaves painstakingly pursue this lifestyle, I believe that the majority of us really don't want to be "lazy" or "busy." Life has a habit of grabbing us by the throat and taking us off of our very carefully constructed plan. For example, The car breaks down, illness in the family, job stress. You name it; we're all are all too familiar with life's obstacles. We can easily become distracted, and although our reasons may be very legitimate, these distractions can lead us to some very nasty pit falls.

M/s relationships thrive on communication and interaction. It's destined to fail if the relationship is fueled on assumptions and preoccupations. It's essential for Masters to stay involved. Even if it's from a mental or physical distance. We need to remember that slaves do understand the stress their Masters are under. slaves have a tendency to feel awful about their Masters stress because quite often there's nothing that they can do to alleviate it. If Masters can stay in touch with how the slaves feel then it's safe to say in these times of unrest, less can be more than enough. That is to say that we as Masters may not be able to give all the time and attention that we would normally give. Nevertheless, if we can take a quick moment to acknowledge an order or a situation this action could very well go a long way in times of unrest. Slaves are human too. Slaves are also very intuitive about what their Masters may be going through. So a little tiny acknowledgement may go a long way.

When I was a kid, my Aunt would drag me off to church. I would bitch, moan, kick and scream. I didn't want to go. Of course, I was forced to, I went, and I hated every second of it. My aunt would tell me that I only had to spare one hour of my life per week. Was that asking too much? As a Master sometimes I just don't want to Master. Sometimes I'm stressed, sad or just pissed at the world. Sometimes I'm just busy. Granted it's my household and if I don't feel like Mastering at the moment then I won't. However, when I step back and look at the grand scheme of things I really do want to be mastering at that moment. I'm just not allowing myself to. Once I realize that, then I can see that I'm only depriving myself of my own pleasures. Unlike church, I want to be involved in my Mastery.

There are times I don't want to be bothered because I'm watching a game, reading a book etc. That's a calculated and planned move and that's more than fine. However, If I allow life to consume me and pull me away from my desires I'm only depriving myself of my joy. To me, that's a key point for me to remember. That awareness helps me to stay on track. Yes, it's easier said than done.

Here are some things I do to combat the traps. Oddly enough, I try to remember my Aunts words. She said you couldn't spare an hour? I try to think to myself, I can't spare ten minutes? As I mentioned earlier, our slaves know when we are stressed. Again, a little focus can go a long way. Ten minutes will probably be as good or even greater under the circumstances, since they are probably aware of what's happening in their Masters life. Giving even that short amount of attention, lets the other person know - yes, I am paying attention. Yes, I see and appreciate your submission. Try to tackle the easy issues. At least something can get accomplished. There will be satisfaction on both sides of the coin.

Some other "tips" would be to set time aside for discussion & making lists. In my household, there's always Sunday discussion. However, if you know you have been under the gun then you may want to schedule in a second discussion day. Since communication is the key, it may be worth the time to do additional discussion. It can be a fine opportunity to go over things that may have slipped in these times of unrest. In my opinion, we should never be too busy to take ten minutes for a quick discussion or review. After all, it's probably taken a lifetime to get the relationship that fills your soul with joy.

One thing that I love to do is make a list. I know damn well that I will lose focus and I will forget things that I want done. Therefore, what I do is I write everything down. I put them in list format. Every Sunday I post a list of everything I want done for the week. The list may take up to a half-hour to put together but it allows me to allot a certain block of time to focus on the week ahead. After all, I know I'm not going to have the time to go over everything. Life will consume me. The best thing about the list is that it gives direction. Whether I'm not around because I have been called away or I just don't want to be disturbed, barb still has a reference point. she knows what I want done regardless of where I may be. This list can act as an absentee Master.

Is M/s a driving force in your life? If you are reading this then it probably is or at least you may want it to be. Tip: try to keep that in mind. Even though you may be overwhelmed or consumed by life, try to remember your ultimate goal. Try to remember that you have the wonderful luxury of living your dreams. True Masters love to Master and guide and slaves yearn to give of themselves. Try to remember what really makes you tick. Don't take your desires or your slaves for granted.

It's hard to avoid the land mines of life. Try to remember that M/s is key component to your existence. Stay in touch with your desires. Even if only for a minute, you very well may be able to reset yourself and get yourself back on your desired M/s track.

I hope everyone is doing great and I look forward to seeing everyone on September 5th.