The Rewards of M/s

Rewards of M/s

The Rewards of Ms: What do we get out of this?

Why is it worth the work?

Wheresoever you go, go with all your heart

-Confucius

Wow, What do we get out of this and why is it worth the work? It's a tough subject to tackle. I'm sure everyone has a different take on that. However, I will bet that we can all agree that we get extreme fulfillment. That's something that I think should ring true for both the Masters and slaves. If our M/s relationships are progressing and functioning properly (sure, there may be some glitches), we can get fulfillment beyond our wildest dreams. Fulfillment can come from many different places in our lives: our careers, hobbies, children etc. The fulfillment from our Mastery and slavery comes from a very special place. I believe that the need to live this lifestyle is deeply rooted in our psyche.

Therefore, when we enter into these relationships I think we are really tapping into our deepest primal areas.

Anytime anyone has the ability to tap into his or her primal wants and needs and turn them into something positive and nurturing, that's something special. Far too often mankind's primal urges get turned outward with nothing short of results that equal massive destruction of mind body and soul.

I know we all have our unique journeys that have brought us to where we are today. Therefore, I thought it might be appropriate for me to share a piece of mine.

Although I can have a tendency to lack self-confidence, I have always had the desire to control. Anytime I got comfortable in a situation - job, sports, etc. I would try to take a leadership role. Especially in my music career. I would always take the power position and want things done my way. Sometimes my position would work but more often than not, it wouldn't. The reason it wouldn't work is because I didn't have the trust and "buy in" from my peers.

As the years went by, my music career dwindled and slipped away. I found myself consumed with a lot of energy and no place to direct it. Soon after the music was over, I had the fortunate opportunity to discover the M/s life style. As I researched this lifestyle more, I was completely taken back. I felt something come over me that I have never felt before. Call it an awakening or rebirth. I don't know exactly what it was, I only know it could not be ignored. Every part of me felt a need for this. So I went ahead and pursued this lifestyle. Each day, reading, crafting household protocol, you name it - I was thinking about it and trying to put the puzzle together. I finally had a chance to build my world. But more important than being able to create and build my world was that there was someone with the same desires. Two people completely on the same page. There was a lot of work to be done. There was a lot to learn, and for that matter, there's still a lot of work to be done and there's still a lot to learn. But every day I feel 100% complete and focused. I feel a true meaning to my life. I get to bring a greater fulfillment to someone else's life as well as my own.

For me this lifestyle is most certainly worth the work, risk, and effort. How often does one get the chance to take a strong relationship and make it stronger, without compromise? I have had the chance to dig deep into myself and my slave and turn my primal needs into something positive and nurturing.

I have also had the chance to acquire knowledge. It's one thing to cultivate and master another individual. However, I have also found I have been able begin to teach and master myself. I too, am a better person. In my quest for Mastery, I have discovered my spiritual side. I have learned more patience, but yet, I'm less tolerant of bullshit that I can control. I can implement control on barb, but I also implement control and train myself. For all the work that I put into this, the rewards run deep. We are both happier and more centered. We both can see the greater goals for our future.

It's not easy to dig deep and find the abilities to master or to serve. However, I have found if you put your full heart into it, you can find complete fulfillment and inner peace. Few people can achieve that. Few people are be able to bounce back to pure fulfillment when things go wrong. However, if you stay the path, all the effort, hard work, trials and tribulations are nothing compared to the rewards.

Growth in a Master/slave relationship can get you closer to your own self-discovery and truth. Being open about your M/s can get you freedom. Freedom = strength. Strength combined with this awareness can guide you to your center.

For me, it's most certainly worth the work. Confucius was right.

As Always, I welcome your thoughts and comments. Please feel free to post your opinions.

I look forward to seeing everyone at our next meeting on Sunday August 8th.